In the book, “am I the one” they lay out some steps to look at in becoming the right person to marry.
Step #1: Become passionate about God – This means making God the center of your live not a thing you do on Sundays and another day of the week. If God is not the center of your live it could become someone and that would be terrible.
[Note – a great analogy for this one is: a women’s heart should be so entwined with the heart of God that a man has to become one with God to get to the women’s heart. (I think I can turn this around for me? Well I am going to look at it like that any ways)]
Step #2: Know the truth – babies do not know the truth it takes time to see life through God’s lens do you like the truth. Most people do not really want to know the truth unless it is pleasant. If you know the truth—really know it and love it and believe it—“you will become free” (John 8:32).
Step #3: Live in Freedom – are you living in freedom—free of the power and plague of sin, free to say “no” to temptation, free to think for yourself, free of the always-lurking Christian Pharisees and their petty rules? You weren’t put here to place people in Bondage of a bad relationship. You were put here “to proclaim freedom for the captives” (Isaiah 61:1).
Step #4: Become passionate about others – are you spending yourself on others? Are you investing on others? Is the world around you—at home, at work, at school, at church, in the community—at least a little better because of your drive to make it so? If you don’t have the humility to “consider other better than yourselves,” you’re not ready for serious relationship. Most people who get married don’t have that humility, so their relationships are all about rights and resentment. You can do a lot better than that.
Step #5: Become passionate about your responsibilities –are you looking for the work and career that will resonate with your soul? Have you refused to absorb the lies, like the idea about “full-time Christian work” (if you’re a Christian, all work is), and “I’m just working to get money so I can serve God” (the work is the big part of your service: see Colossians 3:17), and “it’s not all supposed to be enjoyable—that’s why they call it work” (joy is a choice, not just an emotion).
[Note – attitude that is the one thing that you decide every day. To have a good attitude to be joyful in the situation you are in or not to be.]
Step #6: Find a greater cause – have you found something bigger than yourself that you can devote yourself to? Have you at least made a stab at the question about impact (“what am I here to change?”), significance (“what am I here to build?”), and legacy (“what do I want to leave behind—when I graduate? When I leave my first job? When I die?”). if you don’t have something outstanding reason to be here, your life will be too insignificant to have any outstanding relationships.
[Note – this is a great question one when answered by God shows a direction for course of your life]
Step #7: Learn the power of redemption – Have you learned how to make a comeback? Have you learned that mistakes aren’t fatal, that you can learn and grow and improve, that failure comes from quitting rather than from making mistakes? Do you know forgiveness—how to experience it and how to grant it? Do you cut people slack when they foul up? Have you learned how to meet in the middle?
These are good steps and it is interesting to look at these and see where I fall short and need to work and which ones I can look at and say I got that one.
Side thought – I find this whole series I am starting to be very funny actually because I am learning how to be content and joyful being single but I am going through a relationship book looking at if I am ready for a relationship? Well these will not only get me ready for a relationship but will make me a better person. Healthy and well-rounded aware of my emotions and feelings. WOW an emotionally aware guy, can the world handle that J
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